Dave's "Intimacy Fetish" Loving the nude lap dance clubs in Ontario
Dave's Strip Club Reports and Interests Intro For New Folks
Strip Club Marathon Returning to the Falls
Reviews at http://www.sexworkniagarafalls.com
of most recent trips
Earilier reports from Toronto at http://www.sexworktoronto.com
in the last few years however I have preferred going to Niagara Falls and
Hamilton but many prior trips reports from Toronto.
Arrived Tuesday Night May 22 for my annual 1st of 3 escape the Summer Heat
in Phoenix trips to the Falls over our Memorial Day, 4th of July and Labor
Day holidays. I stay 10+ days arriving before the holiday rush and returning
afterwards. It is a slow time for my business around the holidays (Independent
Investment Advisor, Certified Financial Planner, coming from a CPA firm background)
so it is the best time to take trips to Canada - Oh Canada!
Phoenix is wonderful weather except for 3.5 months of dry heat. In late May
we have our first 100F+ days but gets really hot at 110+ in July and August,
but then cools my Mid September. 100F in Phoenix but dry - feels about the
same as 80-85F in Canada with more moisture. At 110 however its miserable
even with low humidity.
Not having had a naked gal in my arms since last trip in October (no similar
options in Phoenix since 1998 no contact law - can only gawk and get frustrated
without human contact), I did my usual arrival marathon to help the industry
economy :(
I have made separate reports by clubs but the first night in town will include
reports on:
Pharaoh's in Buffalo
Pure Platinum in Ft Erie
Penthouse in Thorold
Mints in Niagara Falls
I skipped my favorite, Sundowner tonight but will visit hopefully during both
day and night shifts over the next 10 days.
I avoid Seductions and probably SI, , due to their high pressure for very
expensive extra services I have no interest in at a strip clubs when full
service escorts are far less expensive in a bed for an hour!
Into For New Folks - Dave and his "Intimacy Fetish"
For about seven years I have done extensive reviews of my favorite activity
in Ontario - the strip clubs with sometimes a few body rubs (enjoy doing nude-reverse
but spoiled by the great body rubs at reasonable cost in Toronto) and usually
a few escorts.
My interest in high touch caring intimacy for the moment, is different than
many guys, so my reviews are different. Bit I also get lots of comments and
e-mail from other guys who prefer my type of interests. So I know there is
a large interest often not expressed in some of the more intimacy aspects
I seek not just sexual in all three of the activities.
When I started doing reviews in mid 1990s I was often attracted by some as
being a sissy and how manly some responders were for wanting sex not just
my silly "intimacy crap". Amazingly I have watched the attitude change dramatically
over the years as more and more guys begin to enjoy and seek this same "intimacy
crap".
For strip clubs I have leaned (but sometimes forget) to be up front when a
dancer approaches me and tell her I'm more interested in high touch intimacy,
cuddling, caressing with her than the usual wild dance and typical Gynecology
exam that does nothing for me. Often the dancer tells me that is what she
likes also, whether true or not I don't know, but I often get very good response
both for my openness and in doing dances.
What turns me on, is the for the moment, human interaction and sharing caring
intimate (not sexual) touch which I think we need much more of than just being
sexual. Don't get me wrong, sex is great but for me just physical sex is not
nearly as fulfilling as more "intimacy for the moment" interactions in lap
dances, massages and with escorts.
My writings on my various web sites express this, especially my ideas at www.lovetouch.info
for workshops I'd like to do to share some ideas. But I haven't found the
right partner nor time to further develop. For many years, yes I'm an old
guy, Canada has been my training/testing ground experimenting with different
touch and massage techniques (I'm professionally trained in Esalen and have
taught couples workshops and hosted massage rooms at swing conventions). I
do this in Canada where you have far more legal rights especially for private
sexuality than we do in the U.S. where all three of my interests are illegal.
This in my view is one reason the U.S. is such a violent, immature sensually,
and sexually frustrated culture with no legal option for good professional
sensual/sexual services like you have in Canada, as in most of the world except
the U.S.
I enjoyed my social experiments in touch at the strip clubs in Phoenix until
the law changed in 1999. Then I enjoyed Thailand , the Philippines and Montreal.
But than found that Canada was far more practical than Asia, English speaking
(except in Quebec) and Ontario has the best combination of all the three options
I enjoy the most. Some of the best escorts were in Victoria, B.C. but they
have no full contact strip clubs due to the rules of the Alcohol Commission,
unlike in Ontario. Of course all my activities are legal within the Canadian
Supreme Court wonderful ruling in 1999 making it clear that full contact nude
laps are not a bawdy house violation, specifically breast touching. I very
much enjoy giving good breast and pectoral massages as a part of dancer routine,
and the often great response I get.
In the 90's I was one of the most popular customers at Phoenix strip clubs
- even though I never tipped - I did it more as a social experiment to develop
my touch and see if dancers would enjoy even without the expected tips. Cost
was still high doing with many dancers at $25 for 3 dance routine. The dancer
only got about $5, house the rest and dancer makes most of her money by your
expected tips. Only one of the songs was nude and after the 1999 law change
which I opposed and spoke against at public hearings and before the Council,
contact tease dances only legal. Heaven forbid you touch a breast or dirty
body part - the religious right made it something to do with protecting children
(yes dumb, made no sense, but that was their silly argument) and to protected
community morality. Terrible situation compared to Canadian clubs and legal
situation
But pre 1999 wow, what an experience with even dancers crying in my arms that
they wished boyfriends knew how to touch and enjoying the type of caring touch
even for the moment, I enjoy. I say all this not to brag but show the power
of developing good touch skills which I ultimately would like to do workshops
to share ideas with others.
At one club there was a hostess who could not understand why any dancer wanted
to be with "cheap Dave" who never tipped. One night she went nuts after having
to make a waiting list of dancers wanting to be with me! She had to get a
dance from me. That of course put me under pressure to "prove myself". But
an amazing thing happened - this is absolutely the truth - after having dances
with me she was my biggest fan. One night there was a new dancer who she literally
threw in my lap (was hilarious) saying "you have to get a dance from Dave
even though he doesn't tip." Again my social experiment on good touch not
trying to bragging about being "Gods gift to women".
I get wonderful response from most women but of course not all since some
are only interested in non personal dancing as a sex object to tease and titillate.
Often this is the U.S. dancer attitude. They save intimacy for their boyfriend
or husband. My view is sharing intimacy is like sharing knowledge. You don't
deplete your knowledge by sharing it, it grows as you spread it around. Intimacy
does not have to be overtly sexual, although it also can be. In my view we
badly need more caring touch intimacy between couples, friends and even for
the moment strangers in our culture without it having to just be sexual.
The most responsive women from my decade plus of experience is the wonderfully
sensual, intimate Eastern European women I meet in Canada. Of course this
is huge generalization with exceptions but its been amazing how true it is
in my experiences. U.S. women the least intimate, European most intimate,
Asian and Latin mixed but often very responsive, and Canadian women somewhere
in the middle (French Canadians the exception great responders like Eastern
Europeans). I think this has a lot to do with culture. If your raised in a
sex negative society like the U.S. vs., open French you don't learn or appreciate
good intimacy skills it seems. But again many exceptions to this generalization.
The U.S. sadly in its laws is dominated by the conservative religious right
that has been very successful in passing laws to impose their non biblical
morality view on others by law since most will not follow their misdirection
in what biblical morality is. Whether you are Christian or not you are effected
by these laws and commonly held false teachings. See http://www.sexwork.com/coalition/christian.html
for my study on why there is nothing biblically wrong with "common" prostitution.
And see my site www.libchrist.com for studies and extensive bibliography showing
clearly is nothing biblically wrong with a man having as many wives and concubines
as he could afford. The conservative Christian beliefs imposed on us in our
laws in the U.S. simply have no biblical basis, only twisted false traditions.
My Dancer Reviews
In my reviews I tell the number of dances I did with a dancer (3 is my limit)
and for those looking for what I enjoy, I rate with my intimacy score, 0-5
from zero intimacy in my view to rare highest 5. I also use terms such as
intimacy responder (knows how to wonderfully interact intimately which is
NOT the same as sexually) or receiver which is someone who obviously enjoys
receiving but isn't as much of a responder other than just laying there and
letting me do things which I do enjoy but even better if like minded responder
as many of the Eastern European (and other) women often are.
That is an intro for new folks not familiar with my type of reviews which
I will post from Niagara Falls and Hamilton over the next 10 days on
http://www.sexworkniagarafalls.com
and other Canadian review boards.
Best wishes. Dave in Phoenix
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