Pregnancy and disease have always been our greatest fears when our children and now our Grandchildren became sexually active. In all instances that happened shortly after puberty. We've preached a go slow approach to sexual activity. Preserve intercourse for as long as possible and only with a boy they would be willing to share parenthood with for the rest of their lives.
The one thing we did not consider was physical injury. For that reason we strongly objected to BDSM until they were both mentally and physically mature enough to withstand the rigors of rough play. While we are 100% supportive of the idea that sexually active young men and women should have complete access to the Internet there are things they can see there and not understand how to handle. Two of the areas concern oral sex and anal sex. In reality the same could be said for many lesser experienced adults.
ORAL SEX Deep Throat Issues
Very easy to grasp, it does have some pitfalls for the fellatrix. It is a most satisfying experience for the man and fulfilling for the woman. There are many myths which could lead to much discomfort and possibly injury.
Myth #1. Deep throat is most preferred. Maybe for some but for the majority not so, especially after having had the deep throat experience a few times. Unless the woman is experienced it can be a complete letdown and lead to injury for her.
The throat is lined with very sensitive muscles and tissue. Also there is the gag reflex which could cause a mild panic. The panic often leads to unusual movements including biting the partner. The biting can lead to even more extreme consequences.
If all of this happens during ejaculation even more unusual movements will happen.
Annie is an experienced fellatrix. It is her chief stock in trade. She has given as many as seventy-five in one night and in her forty-plus years of giving head she has done it thousands and thousands of time. She says that even now she finds it a thrill so she puts her heart where her mouth is.
Early on she gagged each time a boy put his penis in her mouth. Soon after she learned she could thrill the recipient by wrapping her tongue around the head and licking all around the upper part of his shaft. When she sensed him coming she merely locked her lips around the head and responded to the rhythm of his thrusting. He will set the pace.
Once that basic technique is mastered then work on killing off the gag factor can begin. The first object may be something as simple as touching the back of the throat with the handle end of the toothbrush. The first reactions will be strong. Continue doing it for as long as it takes. Then you can graduate to a small dildo. Once the gag reflex is mastered deep throat can be attempted. Again care must be taken not to force the head by the throat muscles. Practice only on a trustworthy and understanding partner.
The easiest method is to take a deep breath and press the head gently against the throat. A gag or two may happen but that should not be of great concern. If and when the head enters the throat cavity move the throat muscles slowly. If the man is about to come back off and finish him in the conventional fashion. In his excited state he could hurt you. Do this until getting him in your throat more easily. You'll know when it is.
Once you're comfortable with all that you can then proceed to take him as deep as it is comfortable for you. Keep in mind your breath control will improve and you'll be able to hold your breath a little longer with each attempt. Sooner or later you'll be able to let him come in your throat. This is especially good when you're with a man whose semen does not taste too good. Most is OK, some is actually sweet, but you won't taste a drop if he comes deep in your throat.
Keep in mind, a good blowjob is not a competition. Just try to please him all you can and not to worry about whether someone may be better. For a man, there is no such thing as a bad blowjob. And it should never hurt you.
ANAL INTERCOURSE
We had
a daughter injure herself attempting the wrong position. She and her boyfriend
had done it in a couple of positions quite a few times when they tried to be
acrobatic. Their favorite intercourse position happens to be her on top. They
tried that anally and she hurt for a couple of weeks. She literally tried to sit
on him and slipped off to the side. She stretched her sphincter muscle beyond
its limit. Her doctor told her she was lucky no tearing had occurred. She enjoys
anal sex again, but it took her more than six months to completely overcome the
accident.Annie has performed a great deal of anal sex professionally. It is something men are willing to pay considerably more for. She uses only two basic positions.
The one which is the least demanding for her body is the missionary position with the man holding her legs over her head and she guides him home. Once in he can bang away without any danger. The only danger to this position is the man is in complete control and does not have the option of pulling away.
The other position is doggy style with the man on his knees penetrating from behind. From there penetration cannot be as deep as the above but is much easier on the back.
Lots of lubrication should always be used and the man should prep the woman with two or three finger advance penetration. Also, when the first pressure is felt by the woman she should push out as hard as she can. This will facilitate entry.
Unless you have washed thoroughly and douched (or had an enema) never take his penis in your mouth until it has been washed. The
same
is true for analingus for both of you. Analingus is extremely exciting but
should only be attempted when the anal passage is free of fecal matter.Annie is fast to point out that she has done some dangerous things but she is quick to point out that when one is paid to perform some risks will be taken. They should be minimized wherever possible.
Oral sex, anal and vaginal intercourse does not need to hurt or be dangerous to be fun. And what else can we seek in sex. BDSM and other practices are another matter but even there safety should be a paramount concern.
Of course, need I mention the need for the use of condoms whenever you are having sex with a strange partner. Any activity where there is a chance for the transfer of bodily fluids requires a barrier for safety. This is especially so for anal sex. The incident of transferring an STD during anal sex is many, many times higher than straight or oral sex. Even then erring on the side of safety is advised.
It is interesting to note that about the only bodily fluid which is quite safe is urine. Water sports are about the healthiest, though not always the most pleasant activities.
