NOT the typical "bro's before ho's" attitude But an Honest, Mentoring Board for Providers & Customers


I am Sparkling Ruby, an Independent Escort for many years, across the US.

I have to say that I agree with all the comments made regarding TER. TER's "Dave" has turned into a force that needs reckoning. Providers should NOT be treated this way, PERIOD, ever, by anyone. Hobbyists should not be required to write bogus reviews to have a membership there, or "juice up" the details of an honest review. That is VERY bad business.

A "bogus" negative review was written on me there, and it took a very long time to even get a response from them to look at it. It was eventually removed, but after a LOT of hassle and wasted time on my part. I have nothing but impeccable reviews, have never had a bad one, and after they investigated all my other reviews on other sites, they removed it. I got lucky, ONCE. 'Not going back there in case it was a fluke, and it wouldn't be that easy "next time".

They have refused me "provider status" stating that I need 3 reviews or more for that, and after the deleted one, I only have two there now. I have DOZENS of reviews at other sites, and they are all linked to my own website. I have been working in this field too many years to count, and they don't consider me worthy to have "provider status"? Maybe not to them, and that's ok, I have found a new, BETTER "home online".

But, I must also add, that your suggestion to the ladies to go to another more "honest" site, like ASPD, is very bad news. ASPD has hurt MORE women than TER, and it's getting worse there. They don't care about the truth, they only love the drama. The LAST thing I have found them to be is HONEST.

More and more ladies are stepping up and admitting the horrible treatment received at ASPD, and I am one of the ones that insisted my profile be deleted from their DB. It took several emails, and months, before they would delete me from their site.

They spread lies, rumors, and slander, in hopes of attracting more people who enjoy the drama. Try to find some resolve with them, and get slammed further for questioning their judgments. Try to defend yourself against slanderous statements, total untruths, and you'll get your posts deleted, and the thread locked, so you cannot respond. I will NEVER go back to ASPD, and I hope that you would not continue to encourage the upstanding ladies looking for new avenues of advertising to go there, as well.

They may be huge, and have lots of clients and ladies, but VERY BAD things are happening there as well. It's just a matter of time, Karma has a way of kicking in when you least expect it. I know of MANY providers who are complaining privately, but fear retaliation by them (certain MODS there) to speak out, and fear losing biz to delete their profiles there. SCARE TACTICS? Is this the MOB?
(Dave comments: Too bad about ASPD, I had no idea of the problems apparently in some sections/cities? Providers have had. I had good discussions with the provider/founder years ago when we came to it off the old aspd newsgroup back when we had packet readers at 120cps. It was one of the first sites when the web became used as I recall vs newsgroups. I don't find the drama in the Phoenix or General sections, but don't have the time to spend too much time there. So your comments are appreciated, but I am disappointed since honest boards are so much needed as an alterative to the disgrace of TER. Which leads to your next comments!)
I would like to let you know about a new, little known board, that is NOT the typical "bro's before ho's" attitude found on most of the review sites. It was created BECAUSE of this type of drama at TER, TBD, and ASPD. The creators of this new site want providers, and gents, to know that there is a site that will LISTEN to them, and treat them with kindness, and even offer a MENTROING PROGRAM for new providers, to help them avoid pitfalls that us veterans had to learn the hard way. They are all about "team work", and comaraderie.

The owner would NEVER treat ladies in the manner that TER's Dave has. The owner of "AHC" is NOT a PIMP. I hope you will investigate it yourself, and find that is a new, better, alternative for the ladies and gents, to feel more comfortable, like they are being heard, and that ANY drama will be minimized, and handled with honesty and discretion, seeking truth only.

There are REAL people out there who CARE about this industry, and want the BEST for the people involved in it. There are people who are genuinely interested in making the Hobby better, safer, and more reliable online. No more BOGUS reviews. After all, how is a new "hobbyist" supposed to accurately do his "homework" on a provider, if the info he is getting is BOGUS?

This new site is called "AHC". http://www.AfterHoursCentral.com  . We are just over 3K members strong now, and growing exponentially in all areas of the country. I believe it is the same attitude you display here, that is attracting only the cream of the crop at this new site. Mature, intelligent providers and gents, stand up, speak out, and let's make the Hobby a better, safer place to play, together.

Thank you for a wonderful site, and for being bold enough to write TRUTHS, no matter the threats, or fear of reactions. THIS is what we need in the industry. HONESTY OVER POPULARITY, ANYDAY!!

Please post this, if you agree with my statements. I feel MANY need to know about this site, to avoid the drama of the bigger, much more corrupt sites.

Sparkling Ruby
www.RubyDoes.com  (my website)
www.AfterHoursCentral.com  (the BEST adult resource guide online) 11/06 New Board - Honest Alternative
I believe we hold the same values. I read your article on TER. TER is not so large here in Texas, we have ASPD which has it own set of problems.

I would very much like for us to join forces in whatever way will improve "the hobby". I am the owner of a new board (about 14 months old) www.afterhourscentral.com  We have had fairly rapid growth because of our attitude of fairness and we are becoming the known as the "kinder gentle board" .

Please check me out to insure that I meet you high standards, you will find that I have built a stellar reputation. Then let us see if we can arrange a way of working together to reduce the power of some of these boards who will, can and do ruin ladies businesses for now better reason than their personal agenda.

Warmest regards

Dave says
Thanks for your note. Obviously we agree on the need for more friendly honest boards.

Your board looks good and I am including your note on our Private List an on sexwork.com

It is hard to get the participation going on a new board vs the widely known dishonest boards like TER, especially when the owner spend zillions on advertising even in Playboy, local alterative papers (full bottom page strip ads a few years ago in the Phoenix New Times).

Obviously he makes lots of money from TER and still acts as a pimp demanding sex or money to not "ruin your career" as he tells providers. Such a disgrace, but it is hard to get a honest board widely known the way TER has become so dominate like TBD use to be before his big bust for the same kind of pimp activities.