Who Is This Dave In Phoenix ?
I come from a very conservative background. 20+ years ago I was very active
in evangelical, conservative ministries, including Bible Study Fellowship,
Christian Business Men's Committee, as well as serving as deacon in a conservative
Presbyterian Church. For many years I believed in the inerrant word of God--God
said it and that settles it.
But I met a couple where both husband and wife were going to Lutheran Theological
Seminary to be ministers. They started pointing out how in Hebrew and Greek
there were obvious contradictions in scripture and some things I thought were
crystal clear were quite foggy. Being interested in supporting my conservative
beliefs concerning sexuality, I set out to do more research to prove my position
correct that sex was wrong unless you were married and then only with your
wife. I read many books by theologians and those that were experts in Greek
and Hebrew and slowly, over time, I found the evidence was overwhelming that
I had been very wrong in my traditional beliefs. I became very upset that
the church would mistranslate and misapply the bible to promote an agenda,
which was not based on the original biblical texts.
In the mid 1980's I attended many Stan Dale's
Human Awareness Institute's "Sex, Love and Intimacy" workshops in Calif.,
where I learned and experienced the group dynamics of true love, intimacy
and fulfilling sexuality far beyond just thrusting intercourse. While these
groups were often closer to New Age type beliefs, I saw more Christ like love
than what I had ever experienced in the traditional church. Too often the
church is too busy reaching UP to God to reach OUT to each other. There are
more people in the world starving for love and affection than starving for
food, but when it comes to meaningful intimate interaction, the church is
too often "God's Frozen People."
In my childhood I was very shy. I was scared of women and didn't date till
I was a senior in college. I never went to a dance. But gradually I became
more outgoing and married. But more than 20 years ago, after being resingled,
I was insecure and depressed. Many women reacted negatively to me, sensing
neediness and insecurity. But slowly, over time, after experience the Stan
Dale workshops, some sex surrogacy training,
Esalen massage
training and lots of G-spot massage experience I found women strangely attracted
to me...especially once they started to experience my touch. For many years
I thought all men were naturally, wonderfully intimate and I was just far
behind. But so many women started telling me they had seldom experienced men
with good touch and intimacy skills and I began to wonder why. I have concluded
that many men want to be more intimate but haven't learned how.
Example: A couple had me do Esalen massage on the women. After a while the
man came upstairs to see how we were doing and got turned on seeing his nude
girlfriend on my table. He jumped in wanting to be sexual with her. As he
was poking and groping her body parts he asked how things were going. She
replied "Great until you came up". Sometimes honest communications can be
embarrassing but he did get the message that at that time she wanted the intimacy
of massage not poking and groping.
On the other hand, not everyone is going to become interested in real intimacy.
Being intimate is much more threatening and difficult for many than just having
recreational sex with strangers. But for me I don't enjoy sex without intimacy,
but often enjoy intimacy even without sex. My purpose is to show the various
sexual intimacy options so people can relate to whatever they choose is most
fulfilling for them.
I enjoy physical intimacy with a wide variety of women who also enjoy good
touch, cuddling, massage, caressing etc. I have lots of ideas for more intimacy
based on many years of teaching intimacy workshops for couples, counseling
many couples as well as hearing from a huge number of men that are seeking
more intimacy from sex workers. I have been a speaker at national swing
conventions hosted massage rooms and led the Phoenix Couples Group that had
350 participants. I have been professionally trained and teach
Esalen massage, which many women have enjoyed. I offer free massage to sex
workers/dancers/massage therapists. Or, I offer what I call a non-sexual cuddle
and caress experience so many women enjoy. Yes, I also enjoy sex but not "just
sex" without intimacy with the great sex.
One of the problems I face in dating many "normal" women is that as one said,
"I am looking for a man who values monogamy as much as I do." The problem
is they only see cheating as the alternative to monogamy. But because I have
such different views, finding like minded single women is very hard. Obviously
sex workers often face the same issues in their own personal relationships.
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