Sexual Dysfunction Survey Stuns & Dave's Comments
February 10, 1999

The following article shows so many more women then men are not interested in sex. Perhaps that is why there are so many frustrated men wanting to participate in swinging but are not welcome as single men, or seek to "convince" their wives or partners to be interested in swinging. The abundance of male frustration and desperation to fulfill their natural sexual needs also explains the continued huge demand for sex workers and especially tours to Asia for young attractive adult women who enjoy their sexuality with older American men. It's sort of like,"if American women don't meet their needs, we will", the 18 year old, attractive, slim, Asian bargirl in the Philippines or Thailand says.

On the women's side I hear so many women who say they aren't interested in sex because most men don't have a clue what they really want. Most women want more than just thrusting, sucking and licking. Many women seek more intimate sexuality that has never been taught to men and too many men have no interest in it.

Many other women seek better physical sexual pleasure like G spot massage etc. Studies have shown the high percentage of women who never have orgasm with a man, but can with vibrators etc. Many men don't want to be taught or the women don't dare hurt their egos so they fake orgasms or have headaches.

I get so many E-mails from women about their frustration not being fulfilled and also from men wanting more sex then their partner wants.

On the other hand, its great to see how many women who do take the plunge into swinging overcome their inhibitions and often turn into the wild sexual women than has been locked up and repressed so long. But as the Survey shows a huge percentage of women have simply given up on sexuality, it seems.

My interest in sexwork first began as the result of seeing the potential of sex workers to be healers as well as providing healthy sexual options for frustrated men or men like myself that simply enjoy variety. I have realized for a long time I am odd in also not seeking pure physical sex but more intimate sexuality even in swinging. On the other hand I do see more and more men also moving in this direction but we still are a very small minority of males!

When couples learn more intimate sexuality, I've heard many wonderful changes occur in both their sexual fulfillment. But as scientists and doctors most in the professions only look at the mechanics of sex and not enough under the emotional issues and women's seeking more intimacy not just hot sex like many men do.

We need more sexual teachers that can actually teach hands on, not just tell someone to read a book. But in our culture sexual teaching by sexworkers is illegal. We are about the only country left in the world that doesn't allow some form of sex work other than in California which has sex surrogacy provisions in the law. But they are very restrictive, costly and only under direct care of a physician.

Enough of my comments - Here is the article
Sexual Dysfunction Survey Stuns
CHICAGO (AP) -- If you think you have sexual problems, you're not alone.

One the most comprehensive surveys in the United States in decades found that sexual dysfunction afflicts 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men, with problems that include a lack of interest in sex and the inability to have an orgasm.

``I think it gives us a base for explaining why we had this enormous response to Viagra,'' said Dr. Edward Laumann, a University of Chicago sociologist and the lead author of the study published today in the Journal of the American Medical Association.

And as grim as the findings are, the survey could offer hope to millions, many of whom think they're the only ones having trouble in bed, Laumann said.

``Often they don't even admit it to their partners. It's the old `I've got a headache' instead of `I don't feel like having sex,''' he said.

The researchers said problems with sex are often coupled with everything from emotional and health problems to lack of time, job pressures and money trouble. But they said they aren't sure which comes first -- stress or problems with sex.

The researchers based the findings on the 1992 National Health and Social Life Survey, a compilation of interviews with 1,749 women and 1,410 men.

The participants, ages 18 to 59, were asked if they had experienced sexual dysfunction over several months in the previous year. Sexual dysfunction was defined as a regular lack of interest in or pain during sex or persistent problems achieving lubrication, an erection or orgasm.

Lack of interest in sex was the most common problem for women, with about a third saying they regularly didn't want sex. Twenty-six percent said they regularly didn't have orgasms and 23 percent said sex wasn't pleasurable.

About a third of men said they had persistent problems with climaxing too early, while 14 percent said they had no interest in sex and 8 percent said they consistently derived no pleasure from sex.

Overall, 43 percent of women and 31 percent of men said they had one or more persistent problems with sex. Researchers had expected the overall numbers to be closer to maybe 20 percent for each sex.

Researchers said those in the survey who experienced sexual dysfunction often were more likely to be unhappy and more likely to describe their satisfaction with the partnership as unsatisfactory, Laumann said.

Dr. Domeena Renshaw, a Chicago-area sex therapist, said the results are not surprising, considering the long list of couples waiting to get into the sexual dysfunction clinic she has run at the Loyola University Medical Center since 1972.

In that time, she has treated nearly 140 couples who had never consummated their marriages, including a couple who had been wed for 23 years.

Study author Raymond Rosen, co-director of the Center for Sexual and Marital Health at the Robert Wood Johnson Medical School in New Brunswick, N.J., said the survey provides much-needed information about women, who have often been excluded from studies about sexual performance.

He said the findings are the most reliable since Dr. Alfred Kinsey did his landmark studies in 1948. Kinsey got similar results regarding impotence and failure to achieve orgasm but didn't ask about lack of sexual desire.

Too often, Rosen said, Americans have gotten their information about sex from magazines bought at the grocery-store checkout.

``As a scientist, it makes my hair stand on end,'' Rosen said. ``It's terrible.''

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